Inna, professional Russian woman matchmaker, answers your questions.

Inna (pschologist) and Natalia (translator and psychologist) recently wrote the letter below to our trial member, Paul. Since we hear these fears in one form or another often, we thought it would be helpful for you to read their reply to him. They live in the culture and work everyday with our women clients in Sochi, and both Inna and Natalia are trained psychologists.
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From Inna to Paul,

I received your letter. I can understand your fears because it is a really significant and important step to become a Full Member of a matchmaking agency, that requires your being ready for great changes in your life and financial expenses.

Let me comment on your fears. I guess this is a typical set of fears of our men clients who are going to join the agency. These fears are based on the stereotyped image of international marriages with Russian woman that are difficult to disperse them. The matter is that such marriages do have some problems, but the problems do not seem big as soon as you find your woman, and the chemistry and mutual interest towards each other make these problems not difficult and possible to be solved easily. I do
understand that there is lots of negative information about marriage with Russian women. But happiness is always silent, unlike failures. It goes without saying, there are some Russian women who put shame on the image of a Russian woman, but I am sure that there are much more happy American men who found their happiness with Russian ladies. I think it was a wise idea of yours to decide to communicate with one of our ex-clients and to talk with them about the fears they had and what result they have now.

1. Language barrier. The majority of the marriages we have had had this problem. As far as I know many of them solved this problem fast and successfully. The dominating factor was the feelings they had for each other and a woman's desire to learn the language as soon as possible as well as a man's desire to help her in it. I can tell you that English is not a problem to be learned for a Russian woman, and the basis for it is put in Sochi during the time a woman waits for her fiance visa. Almost all woman take English classes through the agency during this time. I can also tell you that there are some women who can already speak English well enough to communicate. If this is a big fear for you then you can limit your list to women who can speak English.

2. Problem of possible divorce. Dear Paul, the fear of divorce can follow a man as well as a woman in every marriage either international or an ordinary one. Such negative feelings do not help you to create a happy family. Your mistrust for your woman will tell on your relationships with her. The both sides in a marriage should be absolutely sure and look forward to having positive development of their marriage. Such positive
attitude will help you to create a really strong family. You should have the belief in becoming the happiest one of the most happiest people. This strategy has been proved many times by the previous couples.

3. The wrong expectations. Foreseeing this we do work with women about the image of their life in America. When joining the agency I speak with women about the real life in your country about the illusions they may have and all the women are well aware of the real life of common people in the US. And here you should not have any fears at all. Besides during the English classes they have the possibility to learn about the real
life and culture of the US.

4. Family moving. You should not have any fear about it. Russian woman take only their children before the age of 18 to the US, and as to the rest of their family we have not had any cases of taking their parents or siblings with them, besides parents rarely want to move from their birth-place. Besides it is very hard to be allowed to come to the US on the Tourist Visa, all our lady clients know that. Dear Paul, our women want to create their own families and have a happy marriage with a husband and children and we have never faced the problem of parents moving.

5. Climate. Dear Paul, this is not a problem at all. I have never heard a woman to refuse to follow her soul-mate because of a different climate. Russian people are not afraid of cold. And the woman who have been in correspondence with you know that you live in a cold climate.

Dear Paul, hopefully I was able to help you with your fears. If you have some other questions, you are welcome to ask.

Sincerely,

Inna